Tuesday, October 20, 2009

afraid of the future? NOPE

So here's what's wrong with the line of thinking espoused in my former post.
There's a lot.

1.) THERE IS NO LADDER. There's nowhere we're GETTING to, no bar we must climb above, no upper echelons we must strive to be a part of, to race to win, no millions we must make, no fame we must crave. It's all propaganda.

None of these benchmarks are real. America teaches us the exact opposite - and for a very good reason, for without trying at all, we might never discover what we're passionate about - but the rat race we've all gotten snapped up in isn't real.

2.) There is no TOO LATE. It's NEVER too late (until we're dead). So the idea that we can EVER get STUCK is simply nonsense. Every single moment is a potential turning point. If I was the owner of that deli - and I decided that I needed a change - there are an infinite number of options - I must simply choose one. If I choose none, then I'm not allowed to complain. One thing I've always feared is the idea that 'well it's too late - I'm already too old for that'. There are people who go to med school when they're 50. Why? Because they have nothing to lose but the present [and perhaps their own ego, heaven forbid].

3.) Fear of the future cripples us in the present. It distracts us from this task (just like if you're afraid of dropping a pass rather than simply focused on catching it, the fear makes you more likely to drop it). Imagine - if we could spend our time focused on the present, instead of worrying about the future - there would be NO BETTER WAY we can ensure the best possible future for ourselves! A lot of successful presents = a kickass future.

4.) Consider the past. There's nothing we can do to change what happened. In many ways, our future can be examined in the same way. There are things that WILL happen to us that we will have ZERO control over, and as much control as we'd like to exert on our lives, the truth is we have none, or close to none. We must learn not to fear the inevitable, and the moment we accept our future (and lack of control over it) as inevitable, and accept that we will deal with the reality we're granted, the moment we'll be freer to live to the best of our ability right NOW.

Knowing why you're wrong is half the battle when changing an ingrained mindset.